Tao of Communication: Developing a Gender-Balanced Husband-Wife Communication Model at KUA North Tambun
Abstract
Communication between men and women is a social phenomenon closely linked to gender construction, culture, and existing value systems in society. Differences in mindset, language use, and conversation patterns between the two sexes often lead to communication imbalances that lead to interpersonal conflict, discrimination, domination, and even exploitative relationships. The paradigm of male communication dominance, which remains the social standard across various cultural levels, reinforces the emergence of subordinate relationships between husbands and wives. This situation contributes to increased domestic conflict, including divorce caused by poor communication, inability to resolve conflicts, domestic violence, infidelity, and incompatible values. This study used the R&D (Research and Development) method using Derek Rowntree's development model. Based on expert assessments, 86% of this product or model is suitable and effective for use. The Tao of Communication Model is expected to improve interpersonal relationships (especially between husbands and wives), reduce communication conflicts that lead to disputes and divorce, and reduce, or even reduce, the ever-increasing divorce rate.
References
Abu Zakaria (Imam An-Nawawi). (2016). Riyadhus Shalihin (p. 1085).
Adeni, S., & Harahap, M. (2017). Komunikasi Politik Dan Keterwakilan Perempuan Dalam Arena Politik. PERSPEKTIF Komunikasi UMJ, 1(2), 1–7.
Alice Hendrickson Eagly, L. L. C. (2007). Through the Labyrinth: The Truth about how Women Become Leaders. Boston Harvard Business School Press.
Aji, T. W., Hastjarjo, S., & Hermawati, T. (2026). A Systematic Literature Review and Bibliometric Analysis of Crisis Communication in Digital Media (2015–2025): Mapping Trends and Intellectual Structures. Jurnal Audiens, 7(1). https://doi.org/10.18196/jas.v7i1.732
Bao, D. (2023). Silence in English Language Pedagogy. In English Language Teacher Education and Development (pp. 1-21). https://doi.org/10.1017/9781009019460
Bateson, G. (2000). Steps to an ecology of mind: Collected essays in anthropology, psychiatry, evolution, and epistemology. University of Chicago Press.
Baxter, L. A., & Sahlstein, E. M. (2021). Relational dialectics theory: A philosophy of relational meaning-making. In D. O. Braithwaite & P. Schrodt (Eds.), Engaging theories in interpersonal communication (3rd ed., pp. 179-191). Routledge.
Bodie, G. D., & Crick, N. L. (2022). The stillness of listening: A contemplative approach to interpersonal communication. Journal of Contemplative Inquiry, 9(1), 45-67.
Borg, & Gall. (1983). Educational Research an Introduction. Longman.
Capra, F. (1975). The Tao of Physics: An Exploration of the Parallels Between Modern Physics and Eastern Mysticism. Shambhala Publications.
Casteel, P. . (2021). Habermas and Communicative Actions. EBSCO. https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/communication-and-mass-media/habermas-and-communicative-actions
Capra, F., & Luisi, P. L. (2014). The systems view of life: A unifying vision. Cambridge University Press.
Chen, C. (2024). Intercultural communication in the context of differences in cultural paradigms: China and Western Europe. International Journal of Multilingualism, 22(10), 2363-2378. https://doi.org/10.1080/14790718.2024.2443816
Chin, T., Shi, Y., Palladino, R., & Faggioni, F. (2022). A Yin-Yang dialectical systems theory of knowledge creation. Journal of Knowledge Management, 29(3), 705-722. https://doi.org/10.1108/jkm-07-2022-0524
Cox, M. J., & Paley, B. (2021). Understanding families as systems. In M. H. Bornstein (Ed.), The handbook of parenting: Vol. 4. Social conditions and applied parenting (3rd ed., pp. 305–331). Routledge.
Craig, R. T. (1999). Communication theory as a field. Communication Theory, 9(2), 119-161. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1468-2885.1999.tb00355.x
Craig, R. T., & Xiong, B. (2021). Traditions of communication theory and the potential for multicultural dialogue. Journal of Multicultural Discourses, 17(1), 1-25. https://doi.org/10.1080/17447143.2021.2009487
Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2012). Self-determination theory. In P. A. M. Van Lange, A. W. Kruglanski, & E. T. Higgins (Eds.), Handbook of theories of social psychology (Vol. 1, pp. 416-436). Sage Publications.
Diartha, I. N., Wildan, & Muntari. (2016). Penilaian Kinerja (Performance Assessment) Dalam Pembelajaran Kimia. Jurnal Pijar MIPA, 11(1), 65–69.
Edmondson, A. C., & Lei, Z. (2014). Psychological safety: The history, renaissance, and future of a construct. Annual Review of Organizational Psychology and Organizational Behavior, 1(1), 23-43.
Gastil, J., & Levine, P. (Eds.). (2005). The deliberative democracy handbook: Strategies for effective civic engagement in the twenty-first century. Jossey-Bass.
Greenleaf, R. K., & Spears, L. C. (2023). Servant leadership: A journey into the nature of legitimate power and greatness (25th anniversary ed.). Paulist Press.
Griffin, E., Ledbetter, A., & Sparks, G. (2011). The Interactional View. A First Look at Communication Theory, 164–174. www.afirstlook.com
Gunawan, S. K. (2020). Pengaruh Pola Asuh Orang tua Terhadap Kesehatan Mental Remaja di SMA Negeri 1 Bandung. UPT Perpustakaan Universitas Pasundan. http://repository.unpas.ac.id/id/eprint/49637
Hall, D. L., & Ames, R. T. (1998). Thinking from the Han: Self, truth, and transcendence in Chinese and Western culture. State University of New York Press.
Habermas, J. (2007). Teori Tindakan Komunikatif I: Rasio dan Rasionalisasi Masyarakat (terj. Alimandan). Kreasi Wacana.
Habsy, B. A. (2017). Seni Memahami Penelitian Kulitatif Dalam Bimbingan Dan Konseling : Studi Literatur. JURKAM: Jurnal Konseling Andi Matappa, 1(2), 90. https://doi.org/10.31100/jurkam.v1i2.56
Hamdi, A. S. (2014). Metode Penelitian Kuantitatif Aplikasi dalam Pendidikan. Deepublish.
Hardiman, F. B. (2009). Demokrasi Delibratif: Menimbang Negara Hukum dalam Ruang Publik dalam Teori Diskursus Jurgen Habermas. Kanisius.
Heider, F. (2013). The Psychology of Interpersonal Relations. The Psychology of Interpersonal Relations. https://doi.org/10.4324/9780203781159
Hummon, N. P., & Doreianÿ, P. (2003). Beberapa dinamika proses keseimbangan sosial : membawa Heider kembali ke teori keseimbangan. 25, 17–49.
Indrayani, I. (2024). Gen Z’s Ethical Approaches in Crisis Communication on Social Media: Evidence of Indonesia. Jurnal Komunikasi: Malaysian Journal of Communication, 40(4), 123-140. https://doi.org/10.17576/jkmjc-2024-4004-08
Isaacs, W. N. (2022). Dialogue and the art of thinking together: A new-millennium perspective. The Systems Thinker, 33(4), 1-7.
Johnson, M. (2017). Embodied mind, meaning, and reason: How our bodies give rise to understanding. University of Chicago Press.
Klieber, A. (2024). Silencing Conversational Silences. Hypatia, 39(4), 934-952. https://doi.org/10.1017/hyp.2024.18
Laozi. (1989). Tao Te Ching (translated with an introduction by D. C. LauD. C. Lau, Trans.). Penguin Books.
Littlejohn, S. W., Foss, K. A., & Oetzel, J. G. (2020). Theories of human communication (12th ed.). Waveland Press.
Masidjo, I. (1995). Penilaian Pencapaian Hasil Belajar di Sekolah. Kanisius.
Mohn, E. (2024). Cognitive reframing. EBSCO. https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/psychology/cognitive-reframing
Mulyana, D. (2008). Ilmu Komunikasi, Suatu Pengantar. PT Remaja Rosdakarya.
Mussa, K. G. (2020). Shannon Weaver Model of Communication. Retrieved from https://www.academia.edu/43470628/Shannon_Weaver_Model_of_Communication.
Marinis, T., Andreou, M., Bagioka, D., Baumeister, F., Bongartz, C., Czypionka, A., Golegos, A., Peristeri, E., Skrimpa, V., Durrleman, S., & Terzi, A. (2023). Development and validation of a task battery for verbal and non-verbal first- and second-order theory of mind. Frontiers in Language Sciences, 1. https://doi.org/10.3389/flang.2022.1052095
Miike, Y. (2019). An Asiacentric reflection on the history and future of the field of intercultural communication. Journal of Multicultural Discourses, 14(1), 16-32.
Morgan, L., Nadar, S., & Keygnaert, I. (2025). ‘Stay with the body’: facilitating integrative silence in community-based sexual trauma care. European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 16(1). https://doi.org/10.1080/20008066.2025.2510020
Murata, S. (1992). The Tao of Islam: A Sourcebook on Gender Relationships in Islamic Thought. State University of New York Press.
Pambayun, E. L. (2024). Komunikasi Gender Perspektif Islam. Simbiosa Rekatama Media.
Pawito. (2007). Penelitian Komunikasi Kualitatif. LKiS Yogyakarta.
Pearce, W. B. (2007). Making social worlds: A communication perspective. Blackwell Publishing.
Проняєва, В. Е., Проняева, В. Э., Proniaieva, V. E., & Fedchenko, O. (2021). Non-verbal Communication. In The Management of Procedure-Induced Anxiety in Children. https://doi.org/10.5040/9781501301025.ch-006
Rapp, C. (2023). Aristotle’s Rhetoric: The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy (E. N. Z. and U. Nodelman, Ed.; Winter 202). Metaphysics Research Lab, Stanford University. https://plato.stanford.edu/archives/win2023/entries/aristotle-rhetoric
Reji, S. K. (2026). From press releases to dashboards: A teaching case on social media crisis communication. Journal of Information Technology Teaching Cases. https://doi.org/10.1177/20438869261432224
Syafii, M. L. (2016). M. Lukman Syafii Pengembangan Paket Pembelajaran Ilmu Pengetahuan Sosial Kelas IV SD. Jurnal Lentera, 14(2), 212–223.
Sanjaya, W. (2008). Kurikulum dan Pembelajaran (Teori dan Praktik Pengembangan Kurikulum Tingkat Satuan Pendidikan KTSP) (1st ed.). PRENADAMEDIA GRUP.
Sugiyono. (2012). Metode Penelitian Kuantitatif, Kualitatif dan R&D. Alfabeta.
S., F. E., J., O. B., & O., A. A. (2024). Digital Diplomacy in the Age of Social Media: Challenges and Opportunities for Crisis Communication. African Journal of Social Sciences and Humanities Research, 7(2), 1-15.
Senge, P. M. (2006). The fifth discipline: The art & practice of the learning organization (Edisi revisi). Doubleday/Currency.
Shahbazi, M., & Bunker, D. (2024). Social media trust: Fighting misinformation in the time of crisis. International Journal of Information Management, 77, 102780. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijinfomgt.2024.102780
Shiraliyeva, S. (2026). Navigating Digital Media Ethics: Challenges and Responsibilities. Communications, 13(1), 1-6. https://doi.org/10.11648/j.com.20261301.11
Siegel, D. J. (2010). Mindsight: The new science of personal transformation. Bantam.
Slingerland, E. (2003). Effortless Action: Wu-wei as Conceptual Metaphor and Spiritual Ideal in Early China. Oxford University Press.
Tan, C. (2023). A Daoist understanding of mindful leadership. Leadership, 19(3), 275-289. https://doi.org/10.1177/17427150231157450
Ting-Toomey, S., & Oetzel, J. G. (2023). Managing intercultural conflict effectively (3rd ed.). Sage Publications.
Valentine, R. H. (2024). Sinkretisme dan Akulturasi Pemikiran Taoisme dalam Kehidupan Spiritualitas Masyarakat Jepang. https://www.academia.edu/19748193/Sinkretisme_dan_Akulturasi_Pemikiran_Taoisme_dalam_Kehidupan_Spiritualitas_Masyarakat_Jepang
Windiyani, T. (2012). Instrumen Untuk Menjaring Data Interval. Nominal, Ordinal Dan Data Tentang Kondisi, Keadaan, Hal Tertentu Dan Data Untuk Menjaring Variabel Kepribadian. Jurnal Pendidikan Dasar, 3(5), 20867433.
Xu, Y. (2022). Understanding language, intercultural competence and harmony from the Taoist philosophy: An investigation of an EU-exchange sail-training voyage. International Journal of Intercultural Relations, 91, 15-25. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijintrel.2022.08.007
Yum, J. O. (1988). The impact of Confucianism on interpersonal relationships and communication patterns in East Asia. Communication Monographs, 55(4), 374-388.
Zidane, A., & Zerrouki, N. (2025). The Semiotics of Silence and Non-verbal Communication in Education: A Systematic Literature Review. Science, Education and Innovations in the context of modern problems, 8(10).
Copyright (c) 2026 Aryadillah Aryadillah, Mirza Ronda, Ridzki Rinanto Sigit, Marlinda Irwanti Poernomo

This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
DAWUH: Islamic Communication Journal is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License. Authors who publish in this journal agree to the following terms:
- Authors retain copyright and acknowledge that the DAWUH: Islamic Communication Journal Natural Science is the first publisher, licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License
- Authors can enter into separate, additional contractual arrangements for the non-exclusive distribution of the journal's published version of the work (e.g., post it to an institutional repository or publish it in a book), with an acknowledgement of its initial publication in this journal.
Authors are permitted and encouraged to post their work online (e.g., in institutional repositories or on their website) before and during the submission process, as it can lead to productive exchanges and earlier and greater citation of published work.










